Here’s a sobering statistic: 85 percent of all relationships will to a greater or lesser degree end in a breakup, according to research. If you and your partner want to be one of the 15 percent, you’re in for an uphill struggle. When two personalities come together, their differences could possibly drive them apart. Still, there are a number of ways you can boost your chances of staying together. Here are my top tips on how to make a new intimate relationship work
Take Time to Really Get to Know Each Other
You hear it all the time. When someone breaks up with their partner, they’ll often say, “But I never really knew them.” Why not? There would have been plenty of opportunities in a relationship for both partners to get to know each other, to talk about their past and to find out more about one another.
If you haven’t done this yet, now’s a good time as any. Spend some time REALLY getting to know each other. That doesn’t just mean asking them what their favorite book or film is, but delving a little deeper.
Find out what really makes them tick, what their dreams and aspirations are, and even what they want from your relationship. After this little chat, you should at least know your partner a little better than before.
Find a Common Interest
Relationships often break down because both partners think they’re too different, that they’ll never last. However, they probably had more in common than they thought.
If you and your partner at first seem to like different things (different movies, different music, different everything), try to find some common ground. Sharing an interest could bring you closer together. It’s a great way to meet mutual friends, and you’ll have something in common to talk about.
Perhaps you share a favorite sport or want to travel to a particular destination. Once you’ve found this common interest or goal, why not explore it further?
Don’t Skimp On The Passion
At first, this may appear redundant when already caught up in the thrills of a new relationship, but a little extra thought at the start of a new romance can pay big dividends later on. Start as you mean to go on, this goes especially for you guys out there! Particularly when it comes to lovemaking, take your time and be considerate of your partner’s needs also. A woman appreciates much longer foreplay and a man who can control himself will know how to stop premature ejaculation from spoiling the moment.
Show Them You Care
There’s a big difference between coming off a little needy and showing you care. Texting your partner throughout the day might creep them out, for example. But cooking them their favorite meal or buying them a gift every so often is a sign that you care and do want things to work out.
Your gestures don’t have to be grandiose and don’t require lots of forethought. Just think of something special and different that you’ll both enjoy. A surprise every now and again can go a long way to boost your relationship. And who knows, your partner might even return the favor with a surprise of their own.
Stuck for ideas? Why not consider asking your friends to help you out. They might have experience with this kind of thing from their own relationships. Alternatively, look online for some unusual ways to surprise your other half.
Relationships take a lot of hard work, and unfortunately, most end up in a break-up according to research. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Finding out about your partner, surprising them every now and again and finding a common interest could ensure you share many happy years together in the future.